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Happiness. We’re all chasing it, right? But what if it wasn’t something you had to find but rather something you could intentionally create in your everyday life?
This isn’t your average “meditate daily” or “drink more water” kind of advice (though, both are great!).
Nope. These tips are unexpected, whimsical, and might even sound a little quirky—but trust me, they’ll transform your routine and bring sparks of joy where you least expect them.
So, let’s get you started with your new & happy life!
1. Curate Your Micro-Moments
More often than not, you think that you need something grand in your life to feel happiness. And while you can wait for the next big thing as long as you can, just don’t forget to notice the tiny bursts of joy, like the first sip of coffee, the way your bedsheets feel after a long day, overhearing strangers laugh.
Because life isn’t just the big milestones; it’s also the teeny, seemingly mundane in-between moments. Make them count.
2. Make Peace with Being Misunderstood
Be honest here: how much energy have you wasted trying to explain, clarify, or defend yourself to people who just… don’t get it?
Spoiler alert: Not everyone will get you. And that’s okay. People will misjudge you, twist your words, underestimate you. Let them. Make peace with misunderstanding sometimes.
The way someone interprets your tone, your choices, or even the way you signed that text with a period is not about you. Your mental freedom will skyrocket when you stop trying to control other people’s perception of you. Take this one thing from me.
3. Create a “Delight List” and Actually Use It
We’ve all been told to “practice self-care” but sometimes, when you’re down or overwhelmed, you might draw a total blank on how to cheer yourself up. Everything looks either not possible or you’re too lazy to do.
Enter the Delight List! This is a master list of tiny joys that make you smile, even if they are the silliest things ever.
- Your favorite dreamy rom-com.
- Watching thunderstorms.
- Walks where you listen to exactly three Taylor Swift songs.
- Watching baby or animal videos.
- Walking barefoot on the grass.
- Ordering your go-to latte and sipping it slowly.
Here are so many more ideas for you to add to your list. Pull it out whenever you need a little pick-me-up.
4. Schedule Boredom
Bear with me here. What if you scheduled boredom? Turn off your phone. No music, no TV, no plans. Just you and your thoughts. Stare at the ceiling or look outta the window. Just be.
I’m sure that you might be thinking that boredom is bad. But every second of your life doesn’t have to be fun or stimulating.
You need stillness to birth creativity! You’ll be shocked how many genius ideas pop into your head when you give your brain a break. Plus, this is an underrated act of rebellion in a “hustle-culture” world. 😉
5. Audit Your Inputs Like a Snob
You are what you consume, friend. And I’m not just talking about food. I mean your social media, your newsfeeds, your group chats, the “background” noise you allow, everything.
Do you follow accounts that make you feel bad about yourself? Are you constantly scrolling headlines that leave you more anxious than informed?
Be ruthless. Keep the things that inspire, educate, or entertain you. Ditch the rest.
6. Be Someone Who Makes People Feel Seen
Want to sprinkle happiness into your life instantly? Try making someone else feel seen.
Notice what people are proud of but don’t say out loud. Compliment people on their energy not just their outfits (I mean, that too).
Human connection is like life fuel, and when you genuinely lift others up, you can’t help but feel lighter yourself. It’s the most underrated happiness hack of all.
7. Reclaim the Word “Enough”
This one’s a toughie. We live in a world that constantly tells us we’re not enough (or don’t have enough). But guess what? You’re already enough. Right now. Just as you are.
Whenever you hear that little voice saying you need to do more, be more, have more, pause.
Your house, your body, your money, your progress — it is enough, today, right now. Contentment isn’t giving up — it’s choosing peace while still growing.
Write it down. Put it on sticky notes. Tattoo it on your palm if you have to (okay, maybe not that extreme—but you get the idea).
8. Romanticize Closure-less Stories
Not every story you start will have an Instagram-perfect ending. Friendships fizzle. Dreams pivot. Some people won’t apologize. Chapters of your life might end without a neat little bow. And that’s okay.
Try seeing these moments as beautiful and bittersweet instead. You don’t always need closure, especially when it means ruining your self-respect.
9. Have Rituals, Not Just Routines
A routine is brushing your teeth. A ritual is lighting a candle, playing music, and stretching before bed.
The difference between a “chore” and a ritual? Intent. You can turn your ordinary tasks into something sacred. It shifts your entire nervous system.
10. Feel Things Fully — Then Move On
Suppressing your emotions doesn’t work long-term. Instead, when you’re feeling frustrated, heartbroken, or just “off,” lean into those feelings—but set boundaries around their stay.
Ugly-cry in the shower. Scream into a pillow. Write rage letters you’ll never send. Vent to someone you trust. Then? Get up and live. Remind yourself that you don’t live there permanently.
Emotions are weather. They pass faster when you stop resisting them.
11. Ask Yourself “What’s The Kindest Option?”
Isn’t it funny how often we’ll go out of our way to be kind to others, but not ourselves? Next time you’re facing a tough choice, pause and ask, What’s the kindest option—for me? Not the most productive. Not the most impressive. The kindest.
That could mean choosing rest over another to-do, or saying no to plans you’re simply not up for. Prioritizing self-compassion isn’t selfish. It’s self-preservation.
12. Celebrate Without a Reason
Why wait for the big wins to celebrate life?
- Bake cookies just because it’s Wednesday.
- Dance to your favorite song after a work meeting that didn’t totally drain you.
- Pour yourself a glass of wine just because.
- Buy the flowers even if there’s “no occasion.” Life is the occasion!
13. Don’t Wait for Confidence — Borrow It
Confidence often shows up after you take action, not before. So, act “as if” — as if you’re qualified, as if you’re meant to be there. Your brain catches up faster than you think.
Because girl, confidence is something you build as you do the thing, not before.
14. Talk to Yourself Like a Friend You Adore
Raise your hand if you’re guilty of saying things to yourself you’d never say to someone you love. ✋ Thought so.
Start paying attention to your inner dialogue. When it gets harsh, flip it into perspective by asking, Would I say this to my best friend?
Instead of “I messed up again,” try “Okay, babe, that didn’t go as planned. We’re learning.” Your self-talk builds your inner world. Make it kind. Make it warm. Make it yours.
15. Set Boundaries Before You Need Them
Boundaries aren’t walls; they’re fences with gates. They help preserve your emotional energy without shutting out the world. But here’s the trick… don’t wait until you’re burned out or overwhelmed to set them.
Be proactive. Limit notifications on your phone, say no before your calendar overflows, and have stock phrases ready for moments when you need to protect your peace (e.g., “I so appreciate the invite, but I already committed to a night of rest”).
16. Prioritize Awe
Stargaze. Watch waves crash. Listen to a choir. Read something that makes your chest ache. Watch the sunrise. Hike a trail with a breathtaking view.
The catch? You have to slow down long enough to notice. Because awe shrinks your stress and expands your sense of possibility, it’s a life reset button in disguise!
17. Do Things Just Because They’re Beautiful
- Make a vase of fresh flowers your centerpiece because it makes you smile.
- Handwrite a note to a friend because it’s thoughtful.
- Light a candle before journaling.
- Take photos of sunrises.
- Doodle on your to-do list.
- Cook a gorgeous meal even if it’s just for you.
Sometimes, things don’t need to be practical or perfect.
Beauty is a reason on its own, and isn’t life richer when we appreciate it?
18. Let Yourself Be “Bad” at New Things
Here’s the thing about being a beginner…it’s messy at first and that’s okay. You don’t have to be good at painting to pick up a brush. You don’t need rhythm to join a dance class.
What if happiness isn’t about perfecting something, but about being brave enough to try?
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