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Ever feel like everything and everyone is draining your energy? Like your battery is at 1% and you’re scrambling for a charger?
We’ve all been there. Work stress, endless notifications, social drama, and whatnot.
But the key to keeping your cool is not dodging toxic people (though seriously, Bye Felicia!), but setting boundaries, respecting your time, and creating a space where you can recharge like a Queen.
So, grab your favorite snack, a comfy pillow, and let’s get started on this energy-boosting journey together!
1. Try Cleansing Rituals
You don’t need to go full witchy (I mean unless you are into that). Even simple techniques like burning sage or taking a salt water bath can shake off any negative energy that’s been lingering.
Couple this with positive affirmations like “I am in control of my energy”, “I am capable”, “I am worthy”, etc., and feel your energy become golden.
2. Turn off Notifications & Swipe Left on Bad Energy.
Constant notifications are like those annoying party crashers who never know when to leave.
So, turn off those notifications and cut ties with all that unnecessary noise. Not every social media ping or email deserves your immediate attention.
Just remember that you don’t have to be on all the time.
3. Hit Dnd Like It’s Your Personal Shield.
DND isn’t just a feature—it’s a lifestyle. Whether it’s work, family, or friends, sometimes you need to create an invisible wall between you and the outside world (in a good way).
When you hit that DND button, you’re essentially saying, “I’m on a break, don’t @ me.” It’s all about giving yourself time and space to recharge without any interruptions.
4. Breaks Aren’t a Crime, Sis.
In a world that glorifies hustling and being constantly busy, taking even the smallest of breaks feels almost rebellious.
But guess what? You need that. Your mind and body NEEDS that.
Be it a quick 5-min break or a full day off—pause, take a breather, and come back refreshed.
5. Say No and Mean It.
If you’re saying yes to everything, guess who’s getting left behind? YOU!
So, repeat after me: “No” is a complete sentence. Whether it’s a last-minute hangout or an extra task at work, just ask yourself: Do you want to do this?
If the answer is no, say it out loud and proud!
6. When the Workday Ends, so Should the Messages.
Once you clock out—that’s it. No more work, no more Slack pings, or emails.
Disconnect completely because there’s only one prize for being the person who is constantly available: suffering.
So, when your workday is over, put your phone on silent or turn off notifications, close the laptop, and get back to you.
7. Clock Out Like a Boss.
Would you run a marathon that is already over? Or would you go to a cafe that’s closed?
My point is—there’s a time for everything, including your work and hustle. Once the clock hits the end of your shift, log off. Leave work at work.
Separate your work time from personal time, and you’ll thank me later.
8. Slow Replies? Hell Yeah!
Even though you’re glued to your phone 24/7, it’s okay if you let that text or email sit there for a while.
Slow replies let you gather your thoughts and respond more mindfully. So, don’t let anyone rush your energy. Prioritize yourself over that constant stream of incoming messages.
9. Work Meetings Should Be Short AF.
Let’s be real: who actually enjoys meetings? Especially long, drawn-out work meetings easily could have been an email.
So, if you have the authority, make sure your meetings are not unnecessarily time-consuming.
And in case you don’t, speak up. Let your boss know how inefficient these meetings are and suggest alternatives.
10. Anxiety Ain’t the Boss of You.
Anxiety might show up uninvited, but that doesn’t mean it gets to run the show. Always remember: it doesn’t define you and it definitely ain’t stronger than you.
It’s just a moment, and moments pass. Take a step back, breathe in, and remind yourself you’re in control.
11. Know Your Triggers and Dodge the Drama.
We all have triggers—situations or people that send our energy into a tailspin. Whatever or whoever it is, identify your triggers so that you can take steps to avoid or minimize them.
But hey, this isn’t about avoiding tough situations altogether, babe. You need to be smart about your energy and setting boundaries.
12. Get the Zen Mode On.
Meditation isn’t just for the yogis on the mountaintops—it’s for everyone.
Got stress piling up? Take a deep breath. Feeling overwhelmed? Close your eyes and breathe it all out.
In fact, you don’t have to sit cross-legged and chant “om” (although that’s a bonus). Just take a few moments to breathe, clear your mind, and refocus.
13. Identify Your Energy-Sucking Vampires.
You know those people who always have something to complain about, never give anything back, and seem to thrive on your emotional exhaustion?
Yeah, stay away from them. If you’re feeling drained, stressed, or just plain blah, that’s your cue.
Protect your energy by limiting your interaction or, if possible, cutting ties altogether.
14. Try Grounding Techniques
Grounding techniques help you anchor yourself when life feels like a whirlwind.
Whether it’s deep breathing, walking barefoot on grass, or focusing on your senses, grounding brings you back to the present.
Here’s my favorite grounding method: 5-4-3-2-1. That is, name 5 things you see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things to hear, 2 things you smell, and 1 thing you taste.
15. Marie Kondo Your Space.
Take a look around your room, desk, or apartment—how does it make you feel? Calm or stressed?
Your environment has a HUGE impact on your mental and emotional energy. But that doesn’t mean you have to go full-on minimalist.
Simply clear out what you don’t need and organize stuff in a way that feels good to you.
16. Perfection Is Overrated, Babe.
Perfection is a myth. Whether it’s work, relationships, or even your figure, aiming for perfection will only burn you out.
Instead, focus on progress rather than perfection.
Celebrate your little wins, and give yourself grace if things don’t go exactly as you planned. Because that’s just life doing its thing.
17. Be Thankful and Amazing!
It might not seem like much (because it didn’t to me in the beginning), but practicing gratitude can do wonders for your energy.
When you’re thankful, you shift your focus from what’s stressing you out to what’s going right. That could be something as simple as your morning coffee, clear skies, or a discount at your favorite diner!
18. Always Check In With Yourself.
Ask yourself: How am I really feeling? Am I stressed, tired, overwhelmed, anxious, or just a little out of sync today?
Taking a moment to assess your emotional and physical needs will help you stay grounded and avoid burnout.
Think of it as a mini self-care session, anytime and anywhere!
19. Find Your Joy.
Your happy place isn’t just one spot—it’s a combination of things that light you up.
That could be hanging out with your besties, exploring a new city, spending time with your fam, or diving into your favorite hobby.
Protect your energy by filling your life with good people, fun activities, and places that give you good vibes!
20. We All Need a Spot to Crash and Recharge.
Your sanctuary doesn’t have to be a fancy spa (though, wouldn’t that be nice?). It could be your cozy bedroom, your favorite corner on the couch, a reading nook, or even your go-to cafe.
The point is that we all need a place to crash, chill, and recharge when life gets a bit tricky. Find that spot (or create one) where you can fully unwind and let your guard down.
21. Keep That Ego in Check, Queen.
Our ego feeds on validation, recognition, and the need to be right all the time. And ego-driven decisions can unleash chaos in your life, leading to more stress, drama, and negativity.
So, let go of that need to control or impress. It’s not about shrinking yourself but choosing peace over pride.
22. Sweat It All Out.
When life feels heavy, sometimes the best remedy is to move your body and sweat it out. You can hit the gym, go for a run, or dance it out like I do!
It’s a surefire (and healthy) way to release all that pent-up energy.
23. Catch Those Zzzz’s
Aim for 7-9 hours of quality sleep, and create a bedtime routine that helps you wind down. That means, no mindless scrolling or heavy meals right before bedtime.
I’d suggest replacing those with a book, some essential oils, and even a calming playlist to help you switch off.
24. Learn How to Be Unbothered.
The ultimate flex? Being unbothered.
But yeah, it’s not something that might come easily to you. So, here’s my advice—stop and ask yourself if that argument or chaos is really worth your time and energy.
Keep your cool, stay in your lane, and watch how much lighter you feel when you stop letting things steal your peace.
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